Love Sandwich Patience

Patience is the biggest virtue that everyone must have. Nothing is better said than this. It is one of the most virtuous of human values as it helps to keep one’s anger within control. Sometimes though, such glorifications of human values look stupid. At some of the occasions, action, even though it incurs much damage, is warranted. There are moments in life in which your emotions, ego, attitude, and everything that can be mentioned are devalued to the gallows. 

There are some improvising questions that appear as the hallmarks of English language etiquette. One of them is “do you mind me having this?” This is something that people ask before they intend to share something of yours, or want to take something from you. Often this question irks you. There are people who won’t wait to get a response from you. They would ask and very politely take it away. How social this looks? Here you can be patient. But it turns really ugly when people do not feel it necessary to bother you with this petty and silly question of theirs... that is they take without asking. Do not they understand that not everything be taken for granted? 

It is really agonising when people take relationships in the same league. You may have a zillion peccadilloes but still you have some right to not remain patient. You feel like getting burnt down to the ashes. Sometimes something is more than enough of the many “enoughs” that care to bother us in our lives. Cannot beat about the bush any more but it really pricks when you see your girlfriend dating other men. She needed space. That is what she had said. And I had agreed. Never knew that the space she needed would be so much that it would make me loose all the little space that I had. Life is full of troubles. And troubles seem to cloud over you when you don’t speak out anything. 

You can be patient in your life. But just because you are, you cannot be on every occasion. Thinking about this is really prickly. You cannot be cool. And more than that you are a moron, when you write all these, knowing that she is not your girlfriend and it is just one sided love that you are doing. You know that eventually you will be rejected but still you  love her with all the passions in you knowing that she does not love you.

When care is elusive from the "one"

Each time your emotional liabilities are aired out of the cocoon, your life undergoes a paradigm shift from the confines of hidden fear to the realms of profound maturity. Emotions are difficult to control. No matter how far they are from reason, they are very near to action. And these actions which are very too often maligned with emotions are not that often considered to be civil. We generally repent at such actions. Though, sometimes we make a volt face that we have done that right, but deep inside, we know how much they are really worth of.

I wonder the many questions that we ask ourselves in the fury of emotions. I wonder how much they matter in the long quest to fulfill our ambitions which we refer to us as the “greater goals in our life”. They are many: “Do I deserve this?”, “Why it’s always me?”, “Why I am the one who suffers always?”, “Why no one listens me?”, “Can’t I expect only this much?”, “Why am I so unlucky?” And a zillion others which more or less means the same.

During our course of life we learn many values. During discourses with other people we talk of many such values. We know the answer when we ask, “What we should do when we are not cared for?” We know that it’s not like we are not cared for, but it’s like we are not cared by the “one” and in the way we long to be cared for.  Just because we are not cared by that “one”, we presume that we are not cared by anyone. We cannot substitute that care by the “one”, but we should remember never to disrespect that care which we get from our family and friends. “Care” is precious; “life” is even more.  If we are able to get ourselves over such emotional liabilities then we could at least care back people who care us and be at least happy even if we cannot be the happiest person in the world.